Children and Shelties

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Quiet games for children to play with your/their sheltie:

Base rules for any game:
1. No yelling
2. No jumping around
3. No sudden movements with hands and arms
4. Always allow the dog to be the one to approach you...never reach or move toward the dog.

Even young children (3+) with full supervision from parents or older siblings can learn these rules, follow them, and still have a great time. Don't underestimate your child's ability to do this! But always be right there to supervise the playtime with very young children to make sure it doesn't "go bad". And let them know that they only get to play these games when you are with them because these are "very special" games for special times. It does take time on your part, but the results can be heartwarming and give even very young children the chance to feel that they too are part of the dog's life...a really extra special part...and it can nip in the bud any resentment they might grow to feel toward a dog they are constantly being told to "leave alone".

Game: Path of treats:
Have your child (or you) place 3 or 4 special tiny treats in a straight line on the floor, put the treats 2'-3' apart. Have your child sit a couple of feet past the last treat, cross legged, with a treat placed on each knee. Then they softly call your dog to them..."come"...no clapping hands or reaching toward the dog. They can sit on their hands initially if that helps to keep their hands quiet...kids love doing silly things like sitting on their hands. If your child is very young, sit on the floor beside them to assist them in remembering the rules...no yelling, no jumping up, no clapping, no reaching toward the dog. If you have more than one child they can take turns playing "Path of Treats"...and it can be fun to time how long it takes your dog to eat the path of treats and the treats from each child's knee...and declare a winner for the shortest time. You can add to this game in many ways...a low jump for the dog placed in the middle of the treat path...a "sit" or "down" command (once your dog has been taught these basic commands) between treats, etc...these additions can include older children in the "training" of your dog in a fun way and help your dog learn that he/she needs to obey others in the family, not just you. In an emergency it can be critical that your dog take commands from anyone in the family.

Use your imagination to come up with other games...when my grandkids were still very young their favorite game with my shelties was "Play Dead". They would get a dab of peanut butter on one hand...then lie on the floor with the PB hand outstretched, lips "buttoned" once they called the dog to "come", and body "dead". The child who played dead the best, didn't giggle or move at all while the PB was being licked off their outstretched hand, won. I used to make up "winner certificates" they would receive to be posted on the frig for "public viewing".

Any non-threatening, quiet game you can have your kids play with your dog will gradually help your dog understand that they can approach your child/children without fear of being mishandled...even if they never grow to love children in general. And the games teach your child that they should never move toward any dog or invade that dog's space, but always let the dog be the one to come to them. Teaching that alone can save them from a bite from a strange dog that they might run up to greet. There is no limit to the children/dog non-threatening games you can invent...take into consideration your kid's personalities, their ages, and the personality of your dog as you dream up games that will work best for all.

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Trini I am saving this to pass on to my daughter who is now 27 and has a corgi named Darwin. She & her fiance are planning kids in the near future.

My own children were 3 & 4 when we got our first dog ( a rescue sheltie that was about 3 years old at the time). I had never owned a dog before and Brittany was the perfect dog to learn from. She was very playful, tolerant and patient. Brittany had a crate and our rule was if the dog goes in her crate that is her space and you are not to allowed to touch her in there. The kids were always supervised with her, no rough play or picking up allowed and we never had a problem. In fact Brittany used to herd them if they stepped out ofthe yard and onto the sidewalk.

Here are some photo of Brittany and the kids ( this is back in 1989 Dallas, Texas)

https://www.dropbox.com/s/gjxo6divjkkzybz/Brittany.jpg
 
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Trini I am saving this to pass on to my daughter who is now 27 and has a corgi named Darwin. She & her fiance are planning kids in the near future.

My own children were 3 & 4 when we got our first dog ( a rescue sheltie that was about 3 years old at the time). I had never owned a dog before and Brittany was the perfect dog to learn from. She was very playful, tolerant and patient. Brittany had a crate and our rule was if the dog goes in her crate that is her space and you are not to allowed to touch her in there. The kids were always supervised with her, no rough play or picking up allowed and we never had a problem. In fact Brittany used to herd them if they stepped out ofthe yard and onto the sidewalk.

Here are some photo of Brittany and the kids ( this is back in 1989 Dallas, Texas)

https://www.dropbox.com/s/gjxo6divjkkzybz/Brittany.jpg

Eva, the pictures are precious...I really laughed at the sit/stay pic for Brittany and your daughter...both were doing perfect sit/stays!!! LOL

For a first time dog owner, actually for any dog owner, you did a wonderful job in setting the respectful limitations needed for happy child/ dog relationships. I doubt your daughter will have any trouble doing the same for her upcoming children and Darwin...you have given her all the base she needs.

I have fostered too many shelties who came into rescue for biting a child...and almost without fail it was because the little dog was simply viewed as a "play toy" for the children and expected to put up with literally any behavior and given no safe place to retreat to. And finally, in desperation, the little dog would bite.

Trini
 
Love your pics. When my children were young we had 2 shelties, Shep and Shandy. They were my first ever dogs and they were wonderful with our kids. Patient and loving. Kids used to dress them up in doll clothes, cover them with blankets and they never protested. I never ever worried about something going wrong. We have had 3 shelties since and our present 2 have definitely not been that cooperative. I run a home daycare and I am ever vigilant so things, as you say, can't go bad. The key is to know your dogs temperament and their limits and to teach children the utmost respect for the animals. I have a rule in my daycare, if the children can't or won't respect my dogs then they are not allowed in my home. Harsh maybe, but safe.
 
Great post Trini.

I met a lady yesterday who just brought a lab puppy for her 1yr old, and was a bit surprised that she couldn't leave her puppy unleashed around her child - he kept knocking her over and biting her. Having organised play sessions, with games that teach the child and puppy is a great idea.
 
Your story of playing dress up reminds me of our angel Hollie. She loved children especially our neices and nephew. One day at my in-laws my neice took Hollie into one of the bedrooms and closed the door so they could "play". I figured they were just playing dolls. Well a little while later the door opens and out comes Hollie covered in stickers. My neice had her covered with them. And Hollie just loved it!!!! Those kids could do anything to her.

Lucky for us Shelby is the same way. We have no kids of our own but she just adores them. She loves the neighbors kids but most of all our 8 year old neice. Mostly because she plays "dog trainer" and loves to show everyone all the tricks she can make Shelby do. Shelby will do absolutely anything for her.
 
Your story of playing dress up reminds me of our angel Hollie. She loved children especially our neices and nephew. One day at my in-laws my neice took Hollie into one of the bedrooms and closed the door so they could "play". I figured they were just playing dolls. Well a little while later the door opens and out comes Hollie covered in stickers. My neice had her covered with them. And Hollie just loved it!!!! Those kids could do anything to her.

Lucky for us Shelby is the same way. We have no kids of our own but she just adores them. She loves the neighbors kids but most of all our 8 year old neice. Mostly because she plays "dog trainer" and loves to show everyone all the tricks she can make Shelby do. Shelby will do absolutely anything for her.

What a precious "memory" to have about your Hollie and "her" kids. Did you get a picture of "sticker" Hollie? I bet she was the hit of that family get together! :) It is wonderful that you have had/have children loving Shelties.

We were blessed with our first Great Grandchild 2 years ago and my current 3 Shelties (Simba, Sketch and Faelee) are not at all sure what to make of this strange little human that comes to visit because they have had only limited exposure to toddlers when in public. So, we are back to working on teaching an energetic toddler how to treat doggies with gentleness and respect...and to convince our Shetlies that wee humans are actually OK.

Trini
 
Great post Trini.

I met a lady yesterday who just brought a lab puppy for her 1yr old, and was a bit surprised that she couldn't leave her puppy unleashed around her child - he kept knocking her over and biting her. Having organised play sessions, with games that teach the child and puppy is a great idea.

Caro, I cringe when I read about situations like this...and, sadly, it happens way too often. Hopefully this lady is a fast and willing learner and will "get it" before that poor little pup ends up dumped in a shelter or rescue for being a "bad dog"...or chained in the backyard 24/7. And before the child gets seriously hurt by sharp puppy teeth. :(

Trini
 
Shelties and Children

The key is to know your dogs temperament and their limits and to teach children the utmost respect for the animals. I have a rule in my daycare, if the children can't or won't respect my dogs then they are not allowed in my home. Harsh maybe, but safe.

Janet, you are right...every dog is different and some simply don't have the temperment to enjoy little children. It is important to accept that and to honor it by not forcing them into situations that are threatening to them emotionally.

I don't see your rules as "harsh", I see them as responsible and loving. Our dogs are members of our family. If someone came into our home and treated a human member of our family with disrespect they wouldn't be welcome...and the same consideration should apply for our non-human family members.

Trini
 
Trini I am saving this to pass on to my daughter who is now 27 and has a corgi named Darwin. She & her fiance are planning kids in the near future.

My own children were 3 & 4 when we got our first dog ( a rescue sheltie that was about 3 years old at the time). I had never owned a dog before and Brittany was the perfect dog to learn from. She was very playful, tolerant and patient. Brittany had a crate and our rule was if the dog goes in her crate that is her space and you are not to allowed to touch her in there. The kids were always supervised with her, no rough play or picking up allowed and we never had a problem. In fact Brittany used to herd them if they stepped out ofthe yard and onto the sidewalk.

Here are some photo of Brittany and the kids ( this is back in 1989 Dallas, Texas)

https://www.dropbox.com/s/gjxo6divjkkzybz/Brittany.jpg

Your pictures are priceless! Love the "sit and stay"!:pop
 
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