Dreams / First Spring

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My beloved Sheltieboy died in September. I had another dream about him this week. I'm discouraged, because I thought I was beyond having any more dreams.

In the dream, he was sitting, and I was kneeling, giving him a great big hug with both arms. While hugging him, I kept repeating "please don't be a dream" over and over again.

It's tramatic to seem him alive (in my dreams), only to wake up to the reality that he is gone forever.

This is my First Spring without him. I guess the spring rains set off another wave of grief. Spring was a special time - it meant spending more time together in the back yard, and numerous other things. His birthday is in April. Lately, I've been thinking alot about that too.
 
I know what you mean in some ways as I have a dear friend who passed away and in the beginning, I'd have dreams, very vivid ones, with her in them and when I would wake up, I would feel so strange. And sad. And hurt because it was't real. But as time went on, the dreams got less, and I started to miss them. I found myself thinking before bed that maybe she'll be there tonight. Now the dreams are pretty random, sometimes once a year, but I try to look at them from a different perspective now and see it as their way of checking in. It will get better in time which I know doesn't make it better right now in any way whatsoever. *hugs*

Do you have another animal? It might hurt you to even think of getting one, but make sure you don't shut yourself off entirely from the idea. Your dog would want you to be happy, try to remember that. It's very sad how short a dog's lifespan is when compared to (hopefully!) ours, but I guess that's all the more reason to love and cherish and enjoy each day with them while they are here. You'll see him again one day and he wants you to be happy and take care of yourself until then :)
 
I know your heartaches. I still dream about my pets that have gone to the rainbow bridge, both cat and dogs. There are triggers such as time of year that get me reminiscing about them. I think I will always miss them. Being such an animal lover I always had to have one with me - knowing one day they will bring again the heartache when it's time to go and that I will dream of them too. But until that time comes Danny Boy is having the time of his life everyday and I have enough love to go around again and again.
 
The first year is the hardest. You're always saying 'Last year we...last year we did...last year we went...' It Does get easier. Don't get me wrong, easier doesn't mean forgetting. Far from it, but your memories should be of happy events, not tearful 'Last year...'

Chelsea's (my angel) pictures are hung in the hall, and often whilst walking past, I'll look at her, and give her a smile, and say 'Hi sweety'. She knows she was loved.
 
That was him coming to you to let you know he is OK and waiting until the time you are together again - his way of comforting you. Love is forever.

Rob
Katie - 15 y/o Tri Diva
Laddie - 6 y/o One-Eyed Cookie Thief
 
I understand your pain. It will be 2 years in June that Hollie crossed the bridge. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. We do have pictures of her all over the house. We have no kids so she was our baby especially for my husband. While the pain has decreased and for the most part has been replaced by joy for the time we had with her there are still triggers that make us sad for our loss. We still can not bring ourselves to take our new girl to the beach. That was Hollie's favorite place to go. Maybe this year we can do it. Your feelings are completely normal and we all have been where you are. Over time your pain will subside. Please do not feel bad for what you are feeling. It will get better.
 
Believe it or not it is part of the healing ... we never forget any of our loved ones .. human or pet .... time ... time helps, it does not allow us to forget the love and memories shared .. but we will have those "moments" that sneek up on us ... that remind us of the reality of them having gone ahead .. to wait ... for us when we will once again be Family forever ... together!

Big hugs !
 
I understand your pain, and am sorry it hurts so bad. It's been almost a year since I lost my AnnaBelle, and I still think of her everyday, often with tears.

I did get a new dog, and she is a wonderful dog. She helps me through a lot of those dark times. I don't dream about Anna, but I still reach for her at night when I wake up a little. She was such a cuddler. Daisy sleeps with me, but she is not as affectionate...at least, not in the same ways.

I can't say it gets easier, but I believe those with more experience than I that say it will. These days, as Anna's death approaches the one year mark, I am thinking of her more....

Daisy is a wonderful dog. I've had her nine months. Our bond grows as time passes, and I have started to appreciate her for the dog she is. When it really hurts, I just lavish love on Daisy. It helps.

I hope you find some comfort. I believe that I will see Anna again someday, and that she is waiting for me in Heaven.
 
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