Not sure if I need to make "the decision"

Emma

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I have cried about this for days wondering what I should do, if anything. I have 2 Chihuahua's and 2 Shelties. My smallest Chi (2.5 pounds), Lucy....she is just a little over 12 yrs old.

Last week I noticed she was very weak in the hind legs. She has gotten more and more unable to go up the flat ramp (running board, carpeted) that goes up to my bed and one up to the couch in my office. So I have been picking her up and getting her down for a while now. Last week when I put her down, she dropped in her back side and wobbled as she struggled to walk.

I called the Vet and took her right in. He said it is her spine and the nerves causing the weakness in her back legs, he said her back is humped up (curved) as though she is bending body inward (hard to explain). He gave her a shot of steroids and gave me pills(Dexamethasone)...which makes her thirsty and pees a lot.

She is still playful while she is comfy in a "spot" on the couch or bed snuggled in a blanket and has been very good about letting me know when she needs down to get a drink or pee. But when I put her down, she doesn't walk much...she will drink water and then just pee right there on the rug next to the water bowl. If I carry her to the pee pad...she will pee there.

I can't tell if she is in constant pain?? I know she is struggling to stand or walk far and as I said the only way she can pee or eat/drink is if I put her near it cause most of the time I have her on the couch or in the bed (at night) and she IS eating and drinking. There IS a dog bed on the floor next to the water....but I am nervous about leaving her on that in case one of the bigger dogs accidental sits/walks on her etc... because she likes a blanket over her.

I have been beating myself up wondering if "I" did anything...I remember a few weeks ago both my grandson and myself tripped over her while she was on the floor in the dog bed and I can't help but to wonder if we did something to hurt her even though I have been having to lift her in and out of the bed and on the couch for a while now. I hurt just looking at her precious little face and have no idea what to do. The vet did not recommend anything other than the meds. How do I know if she is in pain. She also has breast tumors on several breast that have grown and hard...vet says not to operate. She is so little, the vet doesn't think surgery would help.

How do we know?
 
Oh boy. This is the hardest thing about having pets. I have had to judge when enough was enough several times, but it's so hard.

You know your little girl the best; if she is still having some quality of life, then I would just make adjustments to keep her going. I think you would know if she was in pain. When they quit eating and drinking, or otherwise tell you they are done, then it's time.

Nerve damage is such that she's probably not uncomfortable, just unable to make those darn hind legs work. If you've ever had a pinched nerve or anything like it, you'd know the pain is excruciating and no hiding it.

So sorry to hear about your littlest one. Hang in there.
 
I don't know what to say, but, if Beau was unable to do something that I know he absolutely loves to do like Walk and eat I think I would know that it was time to do something. I know I would not like to make the decision, but I don't think it would be fair to keep him in pain.

Only, you know what your dog's personality is, so, only you can make that decision, I hope you find comfort while trying to come to that decision.
 
No, it isn't something you did. It's time and age. If she is at all playful, likely she's not in pain. What do her eyes tell you?

When I made the decision to send our Collie Lassie to the Bridge, I knew that soon -- like within a day or two -- she would be unable to stand and walk. I never wanted her to feel that helplessness.

Sending prayers for good guidance.
 
I am so sorry to hear this. All I can say is that you will know when it is time. With Hollie I could just tell by the look in her eyes. When I would look at her I could tell that she just didn't have the desire to continue. We knew that we couldn't allow her to suffer any longer. It was the hardest decision we ever had to make but it was the kindest act of love we could give to her.
 
Thank you to all that replied. I had taken some pictures of the babes today and she has several looks in her eyes! Hard to tell and I couldn't figure out how to post them on here from a doc file (had to copy and paste them to a word file from my phone) (electronically challenged here) LOL She is responding to the meds and seems to hobble more...but does not want to spend too much time on her legs so I carry her where she needs to go. No way I could do that with Emma (over weight, still).

My last 2 fur babies past without me having to make the decision (one a large dog got into my fenced yard and the other past in her sleep (heart))...so I haven't had to make this decision for about 10-12 yrs. I will not allow her to suffer; but will be watching closely. She is still drinking and eating and she does wag that little tail and wants to snuggle into me with a wiggle going on; so I think she is not in a lot of pain; I just do not know.

I am worried, I am working all day tomorrow (Praise Jesus.....I do work on contract basis when called)....so my daughter is coming by to check on her. Can't decide whether to leave her in the dog bed on the floor or on the couch.....such decisions; wish I could take her to work with me; but I am sure a dental office would not be happy with that :no: other wise I would!
 
Your little Lucy sounds so special and you love her very much. Give yourself a break from "the decision" and see how she does on the meds. Your vet would have given her something for pain if he thought she was in pain and you can always try them if the Dex doesn't do the trick. Maybe she could be on her dog bed in a room by herself so the bigger dogs don't step on her and your daughter can make sure she drinks and pees when she stops in to check on her. Lucy might just be going through a rough patch and may have a few more years in her to share with you, but I understand that you don't want to prolong a painful life. Enjoy each moment with her. Praying for peace for you.
 
Your little Lucy sounds so special and you love her very much. Give yourself a break from "the decision" and see how she does on the meds. Your vet would have given her something for pain if he thought she was in pain and you can always try them if the Dex doesn't do the trick. Maybe she could be on her dog bed in a room by herself so the bigger dogs don't step on her and your daughter can make sure she drinks and pees when she stops in to check on her. Lucy might just be going through a rough patch and may have a few more years in her to share with you, but I understand that you don't want to prolong a painful life. Enjoy each moment with her. Praying for peace for you.

Lucy is very special; so gentle and loving. Well it was a long day at work (11 hours)...I put Lucy in the dog bed on the floor next to couch and placed a pee pad right in front of the bed and the food and water was next to her on the other side. She seemed to do very well!! My daughter checked on them 2 times today to let them out etc..

Lucy seemed happy when I came home and is now at my feet hoping I drop a potato chip (I know, not good!!) She actually seems better today!! They asked me if I could fill in again tomorrow...so hopefully she and the other girls will do as well as they did today!!
 
Glad to hear you both had a good day today. Yesterday must have been Chi-Day because we saw several chi's at work (vet. Hospital) !! Hope she continues to improve.
 
Lucy is very special; so gentle and loving. Well it was a long day at work (11 hours)...I put Lucy in the dog bed on the floor next to couch and placed a pee pad right in front of the bed and the food and water was next to her on the other side. She seemed to do very well!! My daughter checked on them 2 times today to let them out etc..

Lucy seemed happy when I came home and is now at my feet hoping I drop a potato chip (I know, not good!!) She actually seems better today!! They asked me if I could fill in again tomorrow...so hopefully she and the other girls will do as well as they did today!!

If Lucy is having good days, then go with the good days. As they said in the forum, is she were in pain she would tell you.

Keep having those good days!!!!


Hugs,
Kate
 
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