Jess041
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It might be better to PM her.. she might not want to respond publicly in case there is a backlash of negative responses to her decision.
Good By, Sheltie Lovers
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Tabitha
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.Sheltie Forums has always impressed me with the amount of support and absence of judgement. Whatever Psalms desicion is/was I think "walk a mile in my shoes" applies here. Everyone has their own tolerance levels and from Psalms previous posts she does seem to have been trying to improve the situation for several months before arriving at this point.
If she has rehomed Sammy then I do think that it should be accepted that is her desicion to make.
But I hope if Psalms still has Sammy, she will feel able to post openly and will be able to benefit from the support, advice and expererience here (which may also assist other people who are in a similar position.)
If she has rehomed Sammy then I do think that it should be accepted that is her desicion to make.
But I hope if Psalms still has Sammy, she will feel able to post openly and will be able to benefit from the support, advice and expererience here (which may also assist other people who are in a similar position.)
My first sheltie was the most perfect dog ever. He was so perfect that we wanted another just like him. But that is not what we ended up with.
My ex picked out a beautiful sable male from the local sheltie rescue. He really wanted this to be 'his dog'. But this dog never liked him. He was not treated kindly before he came to us, and he had sooo much baggage. He does not like other dogs, he does not like strangers, and he was very destructive. I tried taking him to training classes but he was so out of control bad that he was a distraction to the rest of the class. I almost gave up on this dog many times. But, I also felt sorry for him, so I persisted.
My ex and I split, and this dog ended up staying with me. He is not the dog I would have chosen. But he has been with me for almost 10 years now.
I spent a lot of time working with him. He only marginally improved in his behavior. I was able to stop the destructive behavior in the house with the help of scat mats and those mouse traps with the red plastic flappers on them.
I just decided that he is the way he is. I just deal with it, as I could never in my heart send him on to another home. I do love this dog but not like my other dogs. But I think he has had the best possible life that he could have had with me.
Whatever your decision with your dog is YOUR decision. You have to do what is best for you and your dog, and it may be that you need to find him a new family that can live with him the way he is.
My ex picked out a beautiful sable male from the local sheltie rescue. He really wanted this to be 'his dog'. But this dog never liked him. He was not treated kindly before he came to us, and he had sooo much baggage. He does not like other dogs, he does not like strangers, and he was very destructive. I tried taking him to training classes but he was so out of control bad that he was a distraction to the rest of the class. I almost gave up on this dog many times. But, I also felt sorry for him, so I persisted.
My ex and I split, and this dog ended up staying with me. He is not the dog I would have chosen. But he has been with me for almost 10 years now.
I spent a lot of time working with him. He only marginally improved in his behavior. I was able to stop the destructive behavior in the house with the help of scat mats and those mouse traps with the red plastic flappers on them.
I just decided that he is the way he is. I just deal with it, as I could never in my heart send him on to another home. I do love this dog but not like my other dogs. But I think he has had the best possible life that he could have had with me.
Whatever your decision with your dog is YOUR decision. You have to do what is best for you and your dog, and it may be that you need to find him a new family that can live with him the way he is.
Sammy is rehomed, with me !!
Psalms and I have talked over the last week or so. and by talking and meeting her and Sammy. she gave him to me. was not easy for her, and you can tell she cares deeply for him.
Sammy is adjusting to my girls. looks like Sammy and Sugar are going to be great friends. Tessa is being Tessa, she likes him but does not want him to know that yet. and Kayla is being sweet and easy going, takes Kayla a little longer to warm up, but once she does.
these are a couple pics I took the first hour Sammy was home.
Psalms and I have talked over the last week or so. and by talking and meeting her and Sammy. she gave him to me. was not easy for her, and you can tell she cares deeply for him.
Sammy is adjusting to my girls. looks like Sammy and Sugar are going to be great friends. Tessa is being Tessa, she likes him but does not want him to know that yet. and Kayla is being sweet and easy going, takes Kayla a little longer to warm up, but once she does.
these are a couple pics I took the first hour Sammy was home.
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Jess041
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I feel for Janet. It can't be an easy thing to do, but I know she had Sammy's best interest at heart. I am glad that Sammy has gone to another wonderful home and we are able to keep up with his antics here at Sheltie Nation! I hope he has a smooth adjustment period and enjoys his new pack!
Awe Sammy is so handsome! I'm glad you were able to help her and Sammy!Sammy is rehomed, with me !!
Psalms and I have talked over the last week or so. and by talking and meeting her and Sammy. she gave him to me. was not easy for her, and you can tell she cares deeply for him.
Sammy is adjusting to my girls. looks like Sammy and Sugar are going to be great friends. Tessa is being Tessa, she likes him but does not want him to know that yet. and Kayla is being sweet and easy going, takes Kayla a little longer to warm up, but once she does.
these are a couple pics I took the first hour Sammy was home.
Tabitha
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Congratulations Rose! I'm sorry to hear Psalms was unable to keep Sammy, but I'm glad he has a loving and caring home with you!
Psalms, I hope you find a good dog that suits her lifestyle, I'm sorry Sammy wasn't that dog. God bless and good luck!
Psalms, I hope you find a good dog that suits her lifestyle, I'm sorry Sammy wasn't that dog. God bless and good luck!
I agree the best case is when you keep that pet for life with all it's quirks and flaws. But we don't live in a perfect world, and sometimes despite the best of efforts there is a mismatch between the pet and the owner. This seems to be the case here, Janet has made a huge effort and has a pet that is stressing her out and making her life miserable. This is not a great situation for her or her sheltie, and the longer it goes on the worse it is likely to get. She either needs to be able to find the will & the right resources to start all over with this dog, or
rehome it. That's a difficult spot to be in for someone who wanted to love the dog they have.
To me the commitment says that if you realize you are not up to the job of being the best owner for this pet, you do not turn him over to a shelter but *you* ensure he finds a more suitable home as that is your responsibility. That would mean contacting the breeder first, especially if your contract had a return clause in it ( hopefully it is one that will take the puppy back regardless ). Next contact breed rescue, or depending on the situation, find a home where you know the dog will be happier and well cared for. There is someone out there who is up to the challenge of this dog and that will require being very up front about all of his issues before handing him over. Making this happen may take a little time but it is your responsibility.
Feeling guilty is not useful - lots of rescues go onto have great lives with their new owners. Lastly use what you learned this time around to help in choosing the next dog or perhaps recognize that may a dog is not the pet for you.